Before you reach out, read the whole ad! If her site is linked, check it out! Make sure you know her rates and any rules about booking before you contact her.

When you reach out.

Do

• Suggest a Date, Time, and Duration. Include how flexible you can be.

  • If it doesn’t work for her, she’ll suggest a different time. Asking her to list all her availability for the week is asking her to do a chore.

• Ask what she requires for verification

Do Not

• Ask explicit questions about services

  • This protects you and her from legal issues, and shows her you’re serious. If there is a must-have you’re seeking, use acronyms or request a consultation call

• Chit Chat without Compensation

  • This costs her time and energy, and shows you don’t value her attention

• Call, unless explicity requested

  • Most providers do not answer calls, and rarely text those who do

When Meeting

Do

• Arrive on time, clean and showered

  • If you don’t have time for a shower, ask beforehand if there is a shower you can use

• Put the donation in an obvious place after entering

  • If possible, excuse yourself to the bathroom to freshen up and give her time to count it

• Ask about boundaries and share your own

  • If you’re confused about a boundary, ask for clarification

Do Not

• Ask for unlisted services, especially BBFS

• Push stated boundaries

• Joke or enquire about dating

  • This isn’t a Tinder date. If she wants to date you, she’ll tell you

• Overstay

  • No matter how charming you are, and how great the experience is, staying over time will leave her with a bad taste in her mouth

Wanna stand out amongst the rest?

Do

• Proactively send verification information. Typically that is a photo of your ID. If she has a contact form on her website, fill it out.

• Send a deposit, even if not required

  • It gives her confidence that you will show up, and that you value her time

• Let her know you’re on your way

• Bring extra funds in case you want to extend

  • If so, bring it up right when you feel the urge. This keeps the flow from being interrupted

• Keep an eye on the time

  • You may get swept off your feet, but staying on time shows you care about her day

• Write a review

  • Send it to her for approval before you post it. Bonus points if you focus on things beyond the physical

Do not

• Book last minute

  • Rushing to get ready can turn into rushing during the session

• Blow up her phone between sessions

  • If you have a dream about her, tell her that when you see her. It’s cute!

If you think she’s the best, show her YOU’RE the best!

Do

• Book regularly, with notice

  • She’ll anticipate your text, and smile when it comes

• Bring gifts

  • Drinks, fruit, shoes, jewelry, whatever! Just make sure it’s something she likes

• Tip

  • Tips aren’t required, but you’ll stand out, and she’ll know you think she’s special

• Commemorate Milestones

  • Birthdays, promotions, a year since you started seeing her. Put some thought into making these different than other sessions. This could be a longer session, fun play, outings, duos, etc.